There is power in asking for what you want. It forces you to know yourself, what you prefer, and what you need. This clarity makes it possible to have a life filled with things you like, and the support that makes life easier and fun.
The result of asking for what you want is a ripple effect of good things that begin to materialize in your life. A satisfaction builds from living a fulfilled life by being direct and articulate about your needs.
How often do you truly ask for what you want?
And then the big question, do you even know what you want?
What do you want from your Health?
What do you want for your Relationships?
What do you want for your Finances?
What do you want from your Job or your Business?
Most of the time, we don’t ask for what we want because we either are not clear or perhaps when you asked there was no response… and when that happens you can tend to sit in a pool of self-doubt and this can impact one's confidence and then fear starts to appear.
How many times have you held back in asking what you want and how many times has that impacted where you are today?
People who don’t ask for what they want, continue to struggle with three things consistently:
Feeling unsupported- People who don’t ask for what they want, feel unsupported by those closest to them at home and work. They feel like they are always giving and compromising, while never having what they want. This is true: because no one knows what they want.
Being a martyr- This characteristic is found in people who will grudgingly support others’ decisions while sacrificing their desires. This is a psychological complex based on repeating patterns that places oneself in a victim role. People can sense your underlying anger and resentment and will naturally avoid being in a relationship with someone who acts like this. Another term of people-pleasing.
Being passive-aggressive- Without the ability to ask for what they want, people can resort to silently aggressive or sabotaging behavior to leak out their frustrations without a face-to-face confrontation. This behaviour perpetuates the anger they feel and can cause rifts in relationships.
Being able to ask for what you want removes these struggles and makes it possible to have higher quality relationships and personal satisfaction.
People who ask for what they want, experience these three good things:
Feeling valued- People who ask for what they want will generally receive it: from going to their favorite restaurant on date night to watching the blockbuster movie they’ve been waiting for. By asking for what their hearts desire, they usually find that it can happen. Feeling valued comes from being able to have your needs and wants routinely met. As humans, we all have this underlying need to feel loved and valued.
Being respected- People who are direct, who know what they want, and ask for it in polite ways are respected. They are viewed as trustworthy and safe to be in a relationship with. They are seen as being leaders and highly confident.
Being confident- the knowledge that you are valued and respected itself builds on itself and causes your confidence to bloom. Being a well-functioning person is attractive and rewarding. People enjoy being in a relationship with confident people, and they tend to have more rewarding life experiences while not letting petty things get in their way.
Of course, the material things that come from asking for what you want are nice - but the bigger prize is the experience of being in healthy relationships that are rewarding and respectful. Living your life with a sense of value and alignment is never a bad thing.
Your lens on how you see the world starts to shift.
And the more and more you play this game of asking for what you want, the more and more things will shift in a positive.
I see too often women who do not ask for what they want, out of fear of being judged, rejected or laughed at… so they retract and sit in the results of people-pleasing.
It can be in specific situations, but particularly in the corporate workplace or when asking for a sale.
Many women fear stepping up / voicing up and as such, never really progress into their true potential, compared to those who step into their value, know who they are, what they want and through asking, RECEIVE what they desire.
If there is one thing that I have learnt in all my time... and something my mum taught me many years ago...
If you want something, ask for it.
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